Queer: LGBTQ+ youth and family rejection
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Facing rejection from family can mean losing your safety net. You might experience outright hostility, silence, or exclusion. Understanding what’s happening and knowing where to turn can help you reclaim your worth and find genuine support.
What does family rejection look like?
Family rejection can take many forms: harsh words, refusal to use your name or pronouns, being kept out of family events, or even housing loss. In one study, LGBTQ+ young adults who faced high levels of parental rejection were over six times more likely to report high levels of depression and more than eight times as likely to attempt suicide compared with peers who experienced little or no rejection.
Why does family rejection happen?
Many parents react out of fear, misunderstanding, or pressure from their own cultural or religious communities. Others worry about your safety in a world that can be hostile to LGBTQ+ people. These reactions often stem from stigma and lack of education, not a true desire to hurt you
What does real support look like?
True acceptance means more than tolerance. It includes using your chosen name and pronouns, celebrating your milestones, and standing up for you when others discriminate. Research shows that family acceptance during adolescence dramatically lowers risks of depression, substance misuse, and suicidal behavior in LGBTQ+ youth
What can I do to build a support network?
Join affirming groups. Find local LGBTQ+ youth centers, school GSAs, or online communities like The Trevor Project’s forums.
Identify at least one ally. A friend, teacher, coach, or counselor who respects your identity can make a big difference.
Set and enforce boundaries. Limit time with unsupportive family members to protect your mental health.
Practice daily self‑affirmations. Remind yourself out loud: “I am valid. I am worthy.”
Reach out to a qualified therapist
An LGBTQ+-affirming therapist can teach you coping skills and techniques to help you process rejection and rebuild your world.
Emergency resources for LGBTQ+ people
If you are in crisis, use these resources for immediate help.
The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/
Trans Lifeline: 877‑565‑8860 or https://translifeline.org/
Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988
Nearly half of LGBTQ+ youth are affected by family rejection. If you are affected, you don’t have to face it alone.
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